A few things have gone on since we last posted. I talked with my friend on 2 different occasions and he basically thinks we're too young to be having kids and he also says we're being all crazy with ourselves now that my mother moved out. Rash decisions and what not. So, I gave up on his swimmers. I'm just going to let it simmer with him. I guess when he realizes that we're being serious and maybe he'll help us with another kid in the farrrrr future. Maybe he just wants to see how it all plays out?? I don't know. Good news is we have a new donor! He says he's on board with everything, but we want to make sure he's 100,000,000% sure before we go through with anything. It's Sheila's really good married friends that she's known for 5 years and they are actually following us with this blog *Wave to Mindy*. They already have one child and do not wish to have anymore of their own, so they want to help us out! :D YAY!
Had an OB/GYN appointment today, but only for the family planning part. I was very nervous going in with Sheila to talk about all this with her doctor. I was thinking the whole time, I hope this lady doesn't think we're disgusting or doesn't want to answer our questions. Much to my surprise she was VERY willing to discuss anything and put as much detail into everything as possible. I almost couldn't stop myself from laughing when she started talking about the "turkey baster" method. It was good to hear though because I have done my research and she just confirmed everything that I already read on my own. The nervousness subsided and it was easier to listen to her without cracking a big fat adolescent grin. The doctor said that if we haven't had a successful pregnancy after 6 months of trying that we need to consider intrauterine insemination (iui) new big word for artificial insemination. Although, she herself can't do it in that office, she knows of places we can go. Sheila got a prescription for prenatals to start taking tomorrow. The doctor said to start treating yourself as you're already pregnant, so, hopefully that will help the actual process of getting pregnant to be easier. We're going to try and not be so lazy and make it a habit to go on walks at night again.
So, now the awkwardness of having our new donor being tested to make sure he's clean (we know he is, but the doctor wants to be extra sure), blood type, genetic background, etc. I just hope it's not too overwhelming that he decides he doesn't want to help anymore. That's all the updating we have for now!
-Amity
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Friday, March 25, 2011
Update
I know everyone is dying to know what's going on with our baby status so I thought I give a little update. I was gonna wait until Amity asked her friend about his donation but she hasn't yet.... Anyway, so I call my health insurance to see what kind of coverage I can get.
They cover about 80% in network for artificial insemination, in-vitro, ovulation check, and any other infertialty. 60% out of network. And then I have my health spending account that will cover any co-pay I might have. And they only cover a total of $3,500 for everything. Which is still awesome!!! Insurance didn't use to do that. So this is our plan last. Basically if all else fails we'll go to a clinic and hope it takes the first time. Also Target is "moving forward and making changes" that means I can add Amity to my insurance! But I still need to double check that because it might not be true in Arizona. I'm really hoping I can.
So my next step is to make an appointment with my gynecologist and bring Amity with me so we can ask our questions of what we need to do and make sure everything is a go. And Amity's next step is to talk to her buddy. Get on it girl!
Anyway so there's our update for now. More later once we know more. Please feel free to ask any questions and leave comments. We like to hear feedback :)
-Sheila
They cover about 80% in network for artificial insemination, in-vitro, ovulation check, and any other infertialty. 60% out of network. And then I have my health spending account that will cover any co-pay I might have. And they only cover a total of $3,500 for everything. Which is still awesome!!! Insurance didn't use to do that. So this is our plan last. Basically if all else fails we'll go to a clinic and hope it takes the first time. Also Target is "moving forward and making changes" that means I can add Amity to my insurance! But I still need to double check that because it might not be true in Arizona. I'm really hoping I can.
So my next step is to make an appointment with my gynecologist and bring Amity with me so we can ask our questions of what we need to do and make sure everything is a go. And Amity's next step is to talk to her buddy. Get on it girl!
Anyway so there's our update for now. More later once we know more. Please feel free to ask any questions and leave comments. We like to hear feedback :)
-Sheila
Monday, March 21, 2011
Hello x2
So, I guess I should've wrote more in the last post, but I really couldn't think of anything. We seriously go to bed at like 10pm every night and we were putting the finishing touches on it at 11:30pm. Brain dead time. That's why the description was a little weird with the 'us being together 3 Tuesdays'. It's been roughly 6 years. We wanted to make this blog to post pix of ultrasounds and other things that we feel like showing you guys. Especially for people who don't live close to us...wait that's pretty much everyone, since we live out in the boonies! :P
To answer some of the questions from FB... Sheila is going to carry the child. We're not currently pregnant because she's still gotta go to the OB/GYN and make sure everything is good in the woman department. We basically already know she is, but we just want to know for sure and find out when her ovulation schedule is etc. We are hoping to start trying to conceive around June or July and hopefully be successful by September. We say Sept only because then that'll still be a June baby and there's no major holidays remotely close so, the child won't have to feel like they've been jyped when they start to figure out holidays, birthdays and presents. That'll also give us some time to save up incase our at home with a known donor plan doesn't work out and we need doctor assistance with semen from the cryo bank which costs $1400 for 2 vials. If that doesn't take we have to shell out over and over and over.. Yikes! right? Unfortunately, adoption isn't an option since it's illegal.
So onto the hunt for a donor... I have a gay friend who I'm going to ask. The only problem with that is, I don't want it to be awkward after if he thinks I'm a freak for asking. He jokes around and asks if we're pregnant yet and I just say not until someone gives a cup of man juice. Sheila and I also came up with a plan that if they want to have a kid that I'll carry it for them. It's only fair. If he does say yes, then it's also the awkwardness of having him make sure he has no STD's and that his lil swimmers have what it takes to actually get the job done. I know he's most likely clean, but not sure his partner has kept him that way. We're going to ask some other people whom are married as a back-up, but there's just the whole fear of awkwardness after the question is asked. Hopefully that all goes well or we'll have to start taking donations of either money or sperm. Then after all that, there's the legalities of everything and making sure they won't fight for parental rights and we won't go after them for child support, etc. What a headache! Why couldn't we just some how be blessed with an 'accident' like most families get? Haha
That's about it for now. If any other questions come about, ask in the comments section and we can answer that way, so everyone can see and we don't have to answer repeat questions. :) We'll also put our name at the bottom who posted, since it could be either one of us or both at the same time. o0o special.
-Amity
To answer some of the questions from FB... Sheila is going to carry the child. We're not currently pregnant because she's still gotta go to the OB/GYN and make sure everything is good in the woman department. We basically already know she is, but we just want to know for sure and find out when her ovulation schedule is etc. We are hoping to start trying to conceive around June or July and hopefully be successful by September. We say Sept only because then that'll still be a June baby and there's no major holidays remotely close so, the child won't have to feel like they've been jyped when they start to figure out holidays, birthdays and presents. That'll also give us some time to save up incase our at home with a known donor plan doesn't work out and we need doctor assistance with semen from the cryo bank which costs $1400 for 2 vials. If that doesn't take we have to shell out over and over and over.. Yikes! right? Unfortunately, adoption isn't an option since it's illegal.
So onto the hunt for a donor... I have a gay friend who I'm going to ask. The only problem with that is, I don't want it to be awkward after if he thinks I'm a freak for asking. He jokes around and asks if we're pregnant yet and I just say not until someone gives a cup of man juice. Sheila and I also came up with a plan that if they want to have a kid that I'll carry it for them. It's only fair. If he does say yes, then it's also the awkwardness of having him make sure he has no STD's and that his lil swimmers have what it takes to actually get the job done. I know he's most likely clean, but not sure his partner has kept him that way. We're going to ask some other people whom are married as a back-up, but there's just the whole fear of awkwardness after the question is asked. Hopefully that all goes well or we'll have to start taking donations of either money or sperm. Then after all that, there's the legalities of everything and making sure they won't fight for parental rights and we won't go after them for child support, etc. What a headache! Why couldn't we just some how be blessed with an 'accident' like most families get? Haha
That's about it for now. If any other questions come about, ask in the comments section and we can answer that way, so everyone can see and we don't have to answer repeat questions. :) We'll also put our name at the bottom who posted, since it could be either one of us or both at the same time. o0o special.
-Amity
Friday, March 18, 2011
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